Speaker: Christina Aldan @luckygirliegirl

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Notes

• “Experiences re the sum total of who we are, but not of what we can become” – Christina’s first mentor
• Pass on experience
• Doesn’t need to be older, just needs to have an experience to share
• Results legaycc, relevancy, avoiding mistakes, honest feebck, long lasting friendship, employee retention, strenthen teams
• Teach: work experience, new hires, resource suggestions, skill building, networking tips, how to give/receive feedback
• Helps mentor – stay relevant, emotional intelligence, expand network, reinforce skills, is fulfilling
• Idea: mentor monday’s – start on happy note
• Helps mentee – gain practical advice, emotional intellingence, expand network, improve communication, get direction/focus
• Mentoring is not making a copy of yourself. Learn from a variety of diverse people and pick what relevant to you.

Arranging mentoring

• Can be any duration. ex: coffee once a quarter
• Can reach out to someone you follow online and ask to discuss experience.
• 7 minutes is a specific time limit. 5 minutes sounds like an owner. will probably renew another time
• https://www.polywork.com has less noise than linked in
• Measurable, finiite, clear on want help with, mentor knows that that mentor,
• Ok to be ongoing if still set goals and be intentional.

Emotional Intelligence

• Awareness of self – needed for empathy. Improve by naming emotions more specificallly
• Management of self
• Awareness of others
• Management of others
• Neuroplasticity – can make new connections. As soon as 5-6 hours after create new response, starts. More stimulate, the stronger the connection becomes. (thicker/more connections). If don’t stimulate neuropathway, it disolves

Sins

• Using guilt or shame
• Not dictatorship
• Motivating with bribes
• Courtesy bias – don’t want to hurt feelings. However, growth happens in discomfort

More notes

• Tech, don’t preach
• Guide through process
• Mentee needs to internalize
• Be a talent detectve to see what the mentee wants
• Be honest while remaining kind
• Host open hours, inlude in contractor fee, cross-dept, panel mentoring, join another team one day a month to see what do (job shadow)
• Define boundaries, identify an dassign mentor, set a timeline
• If no goal/end date, just fade away. Mentee wonders what’s up and mentor thinks all is fine. Reach out
• Mentor fatigue – be aware of what you can offer. Needs to be sustainable
• Mentee should be concise, engaged and proactive
• Mentor – stay in lane (only there to share experiences, not a parent/therapist) set clear hours, comunicate clearly

ALGEE (for mental health)

• Access
• Listen
• Give Reassurance
• Encourage Self Care
• Encourage professional help

My take

Christina began with a great story. I like that she did it before introducing ourself. It results in a stronger audience connection and is something I’m trying to get better about. The content was excellent and relatable. She made it interactive so we got to hear a bunch of experiences. My only complaint is the room was too small for the audience. The captioning was A LOT (10 minutes?) behind. It started late so don’t think anyone was relying on it though.